by Melissa
Growing up, I was always embarrassed by my mother. Don’t get me wrong, she was a great mom, but she was F r u g a l. The shameful, cheap, F-word. There was no end to it. Being the second girl in the family, I only wore hand me downs from my sister. Forget the fact she’s five years older than me, so the clothes either didn’t fit or were out of fashion by the time they did. For Halloween, there was a circuit of three handmade costumes we took our turns going through: Witch, then clown, then Hobo, and then back to Witch. No exceptions. I had just one My Little Pony—and for that I was endlessly grateful. I chewed gum way too long, savoring every last hint of taste and then some. I never tasted brand name cereals. It was a horror growing up like that—especially once we moved to Southern California, the paradise for keeping up appearances.
But you know what, now that I’m an adult, I do the same thing. My cheeks stopped turning red when I realized my mom’s favorite chef, Jeff Smith of the Frugal Gourmet, was actually a genius in the kitchen. I learned from her the joy of cooking and the value of eating in. I grew into adulthood embracing second hand goods. And aside from a three year period in college when having a credit card was awesome, I’ve done a pretty good job watching what I spend. And so does my husband: his father was as bad as my mother, so he had the same non-consumerist influence as a child. We were born into frugality, and we thrived.
Because it was so ingrained, I never really thought of being frugal in terms of Reduce, Recycle, and Reuse. But it’s so obvious. I guess that’s why we fell so naturally into the Permaculture Movement (although, to be perfectly frank, the gardening part is still really tricky. How do you do it?) Permaculture is all about being in tune with nature, and doing what’s best for the planet. And of course buying less stuff, spending less in the consumerist cycle, and being conscious of how you use resources is essential to being sustainable.
My husband and I lived in San Francisco for eight years. Right around the time we left, in the summer of 2007, the Compact Movement was in full swing, and the buzz about it was deafening. The contrast between this movement and the shops in Union Square was striking. How can a city that boasts Channel, Hermes, YSL, Vera Wang, Ferragamo, etc. within 3 city blocks also be the hometown of the Really, Really Free Market, Craigslist, and The Community Thrift? It’s incredible, really.
Over two years later, and the Compact Movement is still going. People across the blogosphere have taken up the idea, if not for a year then three months, or one month, or just one day (the next day, BTW, is November 28th, 2009). This blogger has been doing is straight since 2007. And these bloggers aren’t just talking from their pedestal of self-righteousness, they’re sharing tips, advice, holding hands, and challenging others to do the same: to see just how easy it is.
I think I’ll do it. My family, like so many others, has struggled this year. My mom, the queen of frugality, was laid off this summer and my father’s contracting business is struggling with the recession. I think this year, just in time for the holidays, I’ll invoke the Buy Nothing Challenge. If I’m not giving new and expensive presents then it will take the pressure off them to buy for me. It will put the focus back on being together. We’ll be reminded of what the holiday season really means, and at the same time we’ll be doing what’s right for the planet. The rules are pretty simple (courtesy of Transition Town Farmhand):
1. I will buy nothing new
2. The period of the challenge will initially be for November – December, 2009.
3. Exceptions:
Food for myself and my animals
All necessary hygiene and basic cleaning supplies, deodorant, etc.
All necessary repairs and maintainance to the house and car.
Any prescription or non-prescription items needed for health reasons.
4. I can get as much as I want from Thrift Shops, Craigslist, freecycle.org, and flea markets, as long as the items are second hand.
Will you join me?
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